Before you get any ideas, no, we didn't have an affair.
We just happened to be in each other's lives when things started to deteriorate in our personal relationships.
But also because, as a teacher, I've seen firsthand how much responsibility being a parent takes.
You have a life in front of you that you have to take care of, that you have to raise, and you want to do all the right things. And honestly, I'm not sure if it's something I want to take on.
Not because I was romantically interested in John — I honestly only saw him as a friend — but because I was finally starting to see the reality of the emotionally abusive relationship that I was in.
I'm sure another child would instill a positive change in our family dynamic, but it's a big change.I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.I'm not going to lie, the idea caught me completely off guard — but it intrigued me.Still, I had — and having many conversations about it with my best friend — I decided one date couldn't hurt. John and I hit it off instantly, and I finally started to see him in a romantic light. The only problem — at least, to some people — was John's age.And his daughter is only 13 years younger than I am; she's used to seeing a set of parents where neither person could be close in age to her. And while we both listen to what they have to say — especially when John's daughter has an opinion — we're not going to let them control our lives.As for other people, we're lucky in that not many people have made negative comments about the two of us being together.That way if anything happens to him — or to me, as I'm fully aware that something tragic can happen at any age — we both know what the other's wishes are, and are able to help our families with any financial burdens that may arise from it.When it comes to our age difference, the two of us just try to be as prepared as we can, while still seeing where life takes us.It doesn't really feel like they're looking down on us, or being nosy just to gossip. If our age difference does bother someone, John and I try to brush it off.We both get that some people are not going to agree with us being together, and that's OK.