Or, what if you began as a kicked-back person who seemed easy with any direction then pushed the pace when you wanted more than was offered?
Some partners become very upset and urgent when problems arise in relationships.
To make matters even more complicated, differences in pace between intimate partners can occur on every continuum; sex, money, time, energy, resources, etc.
It is such an important issue that new partners must make it a communication priority early in their relationship. First, hold off on the physical intimacy; second, take things day by day and be secure in who you are So it’s the end of Date #1 and you’re pretty sure you’ve found the man you’re going to marry.
Now this is all fine and good for those guys just dating (in the getting laid mode). Rarely do you hear men speak of how “in love” they are. It’s not in our nature to talk about lovely-dovey stuff. And the #1 mistake women make in relationship, which is… If you are single & looking, or in a relationship now, I’m sure you have done this. So the minute a woman has an agenda, this freaks guys out. If you were attracted to this man in the early stages of relationship. Or planning your wedding with your girlfriends at age 13. Growing up, the last thing we talked about was marriage.
If you are one who seeks to be rescued, for instance, you will probably present yourself as relatively passive and in need, waiting for your partner to make the more power-oriented moves.You could seem anxious and somewhat fearful of loss, encouraging that partner to initiate reassurance, offering more energy and time to quiet your distress.Or you might be a conqueror, pushing in with intense and controlling efforts to make certain your new partner feels total comfort in letting you take the lead and define the relationship.They are kinda out of their “heads” and into their “bodies” They are connected to their emotional side, not their logical side. If you said sports, cars and work, you’d only be be half right. Men prefer to set the pace at every stage of the relationship.The truth is, the minute one guy talks about women… Now you might be thinking, why does it go silent Jonathon? Well, for some men they live vicariously through the stories of others. And you are attracted to men who take charge, who are leaders.As a single woman wanting to know how guys think, don’t you wish you could be the fly on the wall in a man’s locker room?When it comes to understanding men and hearing what we say about women, the locker room is the place.If your new partner believes that your original style is who you are, he or she may be pleasantly or unpleasantly surprised if you change in any substantial way.For instance, if you have approached a relationship with an intense sexual pace, concerned that your new partner may not like you in any other way, and then slowed that way down once you feel more secure, you are likely to encounter disappointment or frustration from him or her.What about the other guys, what do they talk about? In our teens and twenties, we were learning how to meet and have confidence with women. I’m sure you have even met a few guys who didn’t have game, who didn’t have edge.Some men are STILL learning how to have confidence with women and how to be in relationship.