I was head-over-heels in love and I just had a gut feeling that he was it for me.Living together was tough because we were around each other 24/7.It's actually been a little while since our reader sent this email, so hopefully she's doing better already!It sounds like you're handling it as best as can be, and we're rooting for you, girl. Psst, more tips here:7 Ways to Handle a Breakup While (Gasp!Keep it to polite, lighthearted small talk for the time being. It sounds like you're all friends, so go to great lengths to not make her feel awkward or like she needs to choose between the two of you. Which means, find a friend outside of the house to lean on.I don't mean stop being friends with Katie of course, just to find someone who doesn't have to live with an ex-couple to be your go-to person when you need to vent or cry. Take up a new hobby or find a great coffee shop to study in.
Whenever you catch yourself thinking about your housemate again, read this list, remind yourself not to s*it where you eat..wait until the lease is up.You're going to have to have a frank talk with Mike about certain uncomfortable things—like, whether or not you guys will bring new dates to the house.It's not a fun discussion, but do it now before you have a blow-up fight later. Even though it's frustrating that Mike acts like nothing happened, I think you need to take a cue from him.If you can’t stop fantasizing about your housemate, no shame, we’ve all been there.But before you act on it, take a look at my list of reasons why getting involved with your housemate is a terrible idea. Usually, when you decide to stop hooking up with someone, for whatever reason, you might occasionally run into them at a party and have an awkward two-minute interaction, but then part ways and not have to see them again until the next party. Unless you and your housemate decide to be exclusive - which is not a good idea - you’ll both inevitably have other people over, and that will just be awkward for everyone involved. Imagine how you’ll feel if you wake up one morning and see someone else sneak out of your housemate’s room. In early January 2013, I signed a lease with two of my close friends from my education program, "Mike" and "Katie," that would begin in June.One thing led to another and in February I started dating Mike.Well, I arrived back at our apartment and went over to give Mike a kiss.He turned his head so I could only kiss his cheek and said "I think we need to talk." My stomach dropped and no less than 30 seconds after I walked in the door he was saying "I think we should break up." I was absolutely devastated and honestly, I was in shock.Someone like your mom, your sister, your high school BFF. Anything so you're not spending the bulk of your time on the couch next to your ex-boyfriend.Plus, keeping busy will keep your mind off of things and get you back to feeling like your happy self sooner.