And a lot of men who are attracted to plus-size women love the feeling of weight.
There’s the whole dominant-submissive side of fetishizing a plus-size woman, wanting her to be in control, to be physically bigger.
I grew up with a mother who told me I was amazing, who said I could accomplish whatever I wanted to. But when I was a teenager, she also started saying, “You need to lose weight.
It will be harder when you get older to find your partner.” I went to weight-loss camp when I was young and was introduced to boys and the bases.
I guess it’s hard to say to somebody, “I have a great girl for you, but she’s fat—are you okay with that? People are image-conscious, and it takes a very secure man to advertise his preference for a woman of size.
No matter how many magazines start featuring plus-size women, in mainstream white culture, a woman who’s heavy isn’t considered as attractive as a woman who’s not.
I’ve had really in-shape guys, bodybuilders even, contact me.
I was embarrassed and annoyed, already contemplating how I was going to get out at the end. I’ve dieted my whole life and can’t remember a time when I wasn’t concerned about my weight.
Now I know that the skinny white girl is not the ideal to everyone.
There are cultures and races that prefer plus-size women.
” Friends of mine were setting one another up on dates but not me.
It makes such an obvious statement—that no one would ever find me attractive because of my weight.