It is something that should he held sacred for marriage. The dictionary calls it "being blindly in love." In other words, you are so carried away by this that you don't know what you are doing.If you go back to the basics in what a relationship is all about you will see that you have friendship first, secondly you are both Christians, and out of that grows a love. From there you go to dating and being serious and then later getting married. The one involved in a romantic infatuation usually cannot think of anything or anyone else other that the person he or she is "in love with." An infatuation is an exciting experience--an emotional high--but it never lasts long because it is NOT true love. You are irresponsible and you tend to neglect your duties.Amnon carried out this plan and forced Tamar to have sex with him. We are built with a sex drive which causes us to be interested in the opposite sex. To be sexually attracted to someone does NOT mean that you are in love with that person. They were just sexually attracted to each other and had little in common besides this. There are couples by the thousands who could not or did not resist sexual involvement before they were married, but now they cannot stand to touch each other. You may be attracted to someone at first sight you may even be "turned on" by someone at first sight But you cannot genuinely love a person whom you do not really know.A fellow sees a girl with a beautiful figure and he says, "Wow! PRECIOUS LOVE Satan does not want you to know and experience true love. He wants you to get involved in sex outside of marriage.We suggest that you print these lessons and put them in a binder for future studies. A TRUE STORY BY SOMEONE WHO WAS SEEKING LOVE During high school, I dated a lot of guys and I was hurt a lot.I was a very vulnerable girl because I wanted someone to love me. The problem was finding the right person to love and have them appreciate and enjoy my love.
LUST is SELFISH - the emphasis is on getting something. Lust says, "I want it for my own pleasure, I want it regardless of the consequences, and I want it now." LOVE IS UNSELFISH - the emphasis is on giving. One of his evil friends suggested a plan whereby he could get Tamar alone. The Bible says that sever years "seemed to him but a few days" because of the love he had for her. Sexual attraction is physical attraction between a fellow and a girl. Sin comes when we attempt to satisfy our sexual drive in a wrong way. There is a vital place in marriage for sexual attraction, but a marriage cannot be built on sexual attraction alone. It does contain the magical element of physical attraction. It is impossible to truly know someone at first sight, and it is likewise impossible to have real love for someone at first sight.If you are in high school or college, the chances are that you are in love with someone right now, or think you might be. Still others do not know the difference between lust and love. You are not yourself." Caroline will smile sweetly and say, "Oh, I'm in love." No, she isn't! If she were in love and her love was the real thing, she would be concerned about her duties, preparing and planning for her future. What does last is the bitter fruit of wrongdoing committed during the infatuation. On the other hand, the Bible tells of the love Jacob had for Rachel. And it carries with it the vital quality of commitment It doesn't give up or quit when problems come along. Real love is not just a wonderful feeling that strikes you suddenly. Some of the most popular songs in the world of music give the wrong impression that falling in love with someone at first sight is real love.Remember, when you are infatuated, you don't use common sense. When this happens, you can do some things that you will regret the rest of your life. Lust is an intense desire to satisfy one's sexual appetite. Jacob had to work for Rachel's father seven long years in order to obtain Rachel as his wife. You enjoy being with that person sharing things with them. You don't "fall" into real love---you grow into it. We trust you will enjoy these lessons as much as we did composing them.We are glad to be able to serve the Lord and you in this way.I decided if I do not do this, I am going to lose him. I worked at a cocktail lounge at night, which was awful. Do not ever believe that you can live without love because you cannot. This seems to be the popular thing to do these days. This was what was missing in my relationship with Joe. He really did not respect me and I did not really respect him. Another mistake was getting involved sexually when I had no business doing it. I was not old enough or mature enough to face the consequences of a sexual relationship.What I should have decided was if he cannot wait for me and do it my way, then it is not worth it. But I jumped into this not knowing it would be the biggest hurt in my life. You cannot count on the people around you to give you that love either but you can count on God. Just because you have all the necessary parts to have, a sexual relationship with someone does not mean that you are ready to get into it.Joe and I were having problems in our dating relationship. I tried to stop it, but he just would not accept it. I lived in constant fear he was going to go out and find someone else and he did exactly that.I had evaluated our relationship and to put it bluntly, it stunk! But I thought in the back of my mind, "If we get married, everything is going to be different. He is going to take care of me, and he is going to care for me. You do not change a person no matter how much you try and no matter how much you love them. I did not want to admit it because I wanted our marriage to work. But a month after the baby was born, things slipped back into what they were--him losing his temper, leaving me alone with the baby all the time and me carrying the load, trying to raise a child and support our family.LEARNED TOO LATE The writer of this true story was seeking love. One of the signs of an infatuation is that you tend to idolize the person you think you are in love with. Sometimes young people will daydream and "laze" around, not doing their duties.It's only natural to want someone to love you and someone you can love is especially true of young people. Others think that "love at first sight" is the real thing. Everything they say or do seems just perfect to you. Other people can see plenty of "danger signals," but you can't see them because you are "blindly in love." our romantic feelings have taken over and you are not using ordinary good sense. Someone will ask, "What is the matter with you, Caroline? If you are just infatuated with someone, you may "laze" around and daydream, but if your love is real, you apply yourself to your work, you make plans, and you prepare for the future.