I had no word to describe what I was feeling – or not feeling."At 18, in her first year of university, Simone finally discovered the term "asexual" and the asexual community."When I first told my parents they weren't surprised," she laughs.People talk about being hetero-romantic, bi-romantic, homo-romantic etc.Others call themselves aromantic, meaning they're not romantically attracted to anyone."It's only the rest of us (asexual, LGBTQ , etc) who get asked. Things may well change for me in the future, but I think it would be really great if people could accept that this thing exists." Simone is keen to stress that, although it is now being talked about more, asexuality isn't a youth 'fad'."We're not all young people who've read this on the internet and attached ourselves to it.
"I would consider being in another relationship in the future, but whether or not that would look like a stereotypical relationship to other people I'm not sure, because I'm really not a physical person at all. A lot like kissing and cuddling and other romantic affectionate physical gestures."So, what would a relationship look like to her?"The pressure on women to be sexually attractive goes far beyond the dating world.Just look at the recent debates over whether workplaces can force women to wear high heels as part of a dress code. As I got to 12 or 13 I noticed that a lot of girls my age seemed really obsessed with going out and talking to the boys and I didn't really get why.This sounds terrible, but it was a bit like watching a documentary.As we reported in the previous installment, asexuality does not equal celibacy, so dating is an option for asexuals.In fact, many do form various relationships and are committed to their partner(s)."I went to an all-girls school and there was an all-boys school next door," she recalls."We were taught separately but at break and lunch times we were allowed to mingle.But a growing movement is coming out publicly to say "No, we aren't wired the same way as you – and that's just fine by us".Simone, 28, is part of that movement and she agreed to tell "Someone who is asexual doesn't experience sexual attraction," she explains.